Total recall: speed thrills but also…?!
Finally the world has come out of football fever (rather its shakira fever J ! ) for the one month her Waka.. Waka had been the Universal anthem for all countries! Like last time Ricky stole our hearts, this time for Shakira. With her typical Indian style namasthe dance and unique voice, really no doubt the song was the most downloaded one in India. (Who gave tough fight is ‘the flag’ song!). When I was grazing through the news last month one item given in newspapers not only shocked me but also opened my eyes.
It started like a letter & accompanied by a photo of a handsome guy.
“Hi friends,
I am Deepak. You may not know me. I am 22 years old, charming, youthful guy. Like other guys, I too love driving. Rather it’s my passion. Driving car at high speed gives me unparallel thrill in this world. In the beginning I was at cloud nine, one day it proved fatal and I ended up being at heaven. My dear ones are missing me badly. I want that thing shouldn’t happen to anybody. So I request you to drive safely. Speed thrills but at the same time kills too. Don’t forget. Remember that not only cars are recalled by its makers!!
With love,
Deepak.
After reading that letter some kind of uneasiness set in my mind and it took one day to come out of that. No need to say that’s an Obituary message given by the affected by the parents of Deepak. I tried to trace the parents of Deepak. They were from normal upper middle class. Deepak was fond of driving car in a reckless manner. Though they have warned so many times, he did not heed. One day, (30th june 2009) he was returning to Chennai from Mahabalipuram, via E(ast) C(rime) R(oad!),in a turning, he lost control of the vehicle and it went upside down. I won’t say my son died of fate, it’s purely his mistake. And he added put this as my request. Please drive carefully and safely. Before starting your vehicle, think of your dear ones. More over he said had he given as a normal message, no body would have noticed. To attract everybody’s attention he did like this. Really he should possess a great mind to do this. Isn’t it?!
Of late due to industrialization or globalization, governments have woken up to provide roads and bridges, adding to driver’s delight (like Hemamalini’s cheeks! Courtesy: Sh. Lalluji). But have they taken care of measures to prevent accidents? The answer is pathetically no. no speed control measures, cameras, or proper police deployment! So drivers are at their mercy and every day reckless drivers are painting the roads with red!
As the economists are burning their mid night oil to predict the date in which India will overtake China, to become no. 1 in all aspects, such as Population or in the Economy , it claimed the top spot silently. Yes…. Last month India has become officially No.1 in the unexpected category. Till june China was No.1 in terms of road accidents in the world, i.e. 73000 accidents per year. India replaced with 1,50,000 accidents. Truly shameful indeed. But whether Government has woken up to see the truth? I doubt; it didn’t. Simply by writing “Drive Carefully”, the job of government is over? We also feel the pain, when our near and dear ones are the victims. (This one includes me too. I am writing this blog, after an accident happened last month in my home town, which took away the whole family of my friend, leaving him alone!!)
ISO blaming others let us start our own initiative. Let us take pledge to
v Drive carefully
v Drive slowly
v Follow the traffic rules
v Wear helmet/seat belt
By this way, we not only save our lives but also others lives too. I saw one quote some where. “You need not worry if others call you Mr. Late; but you have to worry when others address you like Late. Mr.”. simple words hun? But if their places are changed, it will give a world of difference.
Once again I remember the words from the letter. Not only cars are recalled by the makers! True words. It got imbibed in my heart; I hope the same with you too. Can I?
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Experiments with untruth: Asatya meva jeyathe!
It’s really strange, indeed! The same word gives happiness to one and creates unknown fear in another one’s mind. That’s nothing but sn sites! (fb, orkut or my space). When your siblings are mentioning their net friends, you can see hundred watts brightness in their faces. That seems to be great but at the same time we can say, “Sleeping with the enemy”! In this fast techie world, there is no use in cursing the advancement of technology, the best way is to learn the game. As told in football, offence is the best form of defense!
I had a chat with my friend, who is having teen children, to know how he is tackling this new “war”. Some new ideas crept in. frankly speaking no body is comfortable in running behind the back or peeping through their shoulders. Children also don’t like this kind of “online policing”. He also joined the same network of his daughter and befriended with her. In this way he kept a check on her network and at the same time without hurting her.
First I didn’t accept his logic. Is it not cheating? Is it not a honest lie? Then he explained in some cases where truth hurts, lies can be used, if it doesn’t harm. In thirukkural(a tamil book written by saint thiruvalluvar about 1000 years ago!).Lie can take the place of truth; if it does not harm any body rather does some good thing. (So girls be careful while writing scrap books,chatting,etc..some known person may be in your network! ). Like that I read one incident in the press, in u.k., one colin mary(face book name#) wrote in her scrap book, like this” I am doing the nonsense job under the idiot”. Under this her boss John Howard wrote like this “thanks Mary for all the work you have done. You are relieved from doing the nonsense job now on wards and got relieved from the idiot also”. No need to say, she was fired!!
So as per him, lie is also part of our life. (As usual) one research conducted on this subject. The researchers took lot of pain and came out with startling statistics. As per the report, men tell around 1092 lies per year. (Approximately 3 lies per day!) And surprisingly women tell around 742 lies per year.(comes around 2 per day!!).
If we study the situations, men lie under the following conditions.
Ø For Attending drinks parties
Ø For not attending the calls from wife
Ø For coming late.
In the case of women,
Ø I don’t know where I have kept that thing
Ø I am having headache. I don’t remember
In one of my friend’s family, after marriage, the boy asked the usual question, like whether you had an affair with somebody, because he had one such before marriage. To become honest, the poor girl revealed that. That’s it. For acting honestly the girl was penalized. So we need not be honest all the times!
In normal life also how many of us dare to tell our boss, that we want leave because of seeing last night foot ball match? We have to use false sickness (or same old lie of grand mother serious?!!). The old saying of satya meva jayathe , ie. Truth always triumphs.. Is just a myth? Or it’s just an adaptative capability of the great human race?
Amongst the sea animals, cleverest one is dolphin. It just escapes from its own species (jaws) and the dangerous enemy (Human beings) by maintaining friendship. Should we become human dolphins to sustain in the world?
Then what’s the fate of “good” and “fair” relationship? If situations start changing our policy, won’t they become our boss? ..If the “true “lies” become the order of the day, where truth will hide? Before these questions tighten my neck, will you relieve me?!
It’s really strange, indeed! The same word gives happiness to one and creates unknown fear in another one’s mind. That’s nothing but sn sites! (fb, orkut or my space). When your siblings are mentioning their net friends, you can see hundred watts brightness in their faces. That seems to be great but at the same time we can say, “Sleeping with the enemy”! In this fast techie world, there is no use in cursing the advancement of technology, the best way is to learn the game. As told in football, offence is the best form of defense!
I had a chat with my friend, who is having teen children, to know how he is tackling this new “war”. Some new ideas crept in. frankly speaking no body is comfortable in running behind the back or peeping through their shoulders. Children also don’t like this kind of “online policing”. He also joined the same network of his daughter and befriended with her. In this way he kept a check on her network and at the same time without hurting her.
First I didn’t accept his logic. Is it not cheating? Is it not a honest lie? Then he explained in some cases where truth hurts, lies can be used, if it doesn’t harm. In thirukkural(a tamil book written by saint thiruvalluvar about 1000 years ago!).Lie can take the place of truth; if it does not harm any body rather does some good thing. (So girls be careful while writing scrap books,chatting,etc..some known person may be in your network! ). Like that I read one incident in the press, in u.k., one colin mary(face book name#) wrote in her scrap book, like this” I am doing the nonsense job under the idiot”. Under this her boss John Howard wrote like this “thanks Mary for all the work you have done. You are relieved from doing the nonsense job now on wards and got relieved from the idiot also”. No need to say, she was fired!!
So as per him, lie is also part of our life. (As usual) one research conducted on this subject. The researchers took lot of pain and came out with startling statistics. As per the report, men tell around 1092 lies per year. (Approximately 3 lies per day!) And surprisingly women tell around 742 lies per year.(comes around 2 per day!!).
If we study the situations, men lie under the following conditions.
Ø For Attending drinks parties
Ø For not attending the calls from wife
Ø For coming late.
In the case of women,
Ø I don’t know where I have kept that thing
Ø I am having headache. I don’t remember
In one of my friend’s family, after marriage, the boy asked the usual question, like whether you had an affair with somebody, because he had one such before marriage. To become honest, the poor girl revealed that. That’s it. For acting honestly the girl was penalized. So we need not be honest all the times!
In normal life also how many of us dare to tell our boss, that we want leave because of seeing last night foot ball match? We have to use false sickness (or same old lie of grand mother serious?!!). The old saying of satya meva jayathe , ie. Truth always triumphs.. Is just a myth? Or it’s just an adaptative capability of the great human race?
Amongst the sea animals, cleverest one is dolphin. It just escapes from its own species (jaws) and the dangerous enemy (Human beings) by maintaining friendship. Should we become human dolphins to sustain in the world?
Then what’s the fate of “good” and “fair” relationship? If situations start changing our policy, won’t they become our boss? ..If the “true “lies” become the order of the day, where truth will hide? Before these questions tighten my neck, will you relieve me?!
Minu and Paul : a strange love story
Love is a strange thing. It may happen with anybody. Between living and nonliving thing, living things, the way of expressing love may differ.
If a question is put forward to everybody that who has become the “famous” personality of the year? I am sure out of 10 people at least 6 would choose to answer “Paul” (the psychic octopus). Though German people initially loved him, started hating him later (and some body is ready for the kill too!). Expecting something from somebody and if we could not get that from, love becomes hate. Then what kind of love is that?. ”He” may not be aware of his popularity, but should be enjoying the stardom. Though using animals or birds in the prediction may not be new thing, the extraordinary popularity might have developed some kind of jealously or curious love in the minds of other “seniors” in this field.
In this context my mind went back by 30 years (oops. . . I have revealed by age!!).The day I met her, got flashed before me. “She” is Minu. She had pretty looks, charming nose and more than that intelligent brain too. (That’s the surprising element of all!). Who ever sees her, definitely will fall in “love” with her. Whether it may be for her welcome “Vango” (please come!), or asking your welfare”sowkiyama?”(Are you fine?!).She is my neighbor’s life and soul. After my school time is over, I used to rush to my neighbors house to see Minu. In the first meeting of the day she used to say” Sairam..” (my neighbour was a sai devotee)and force us to repeat the same. After that she used to ask affectionately “saptacha..(Have u taken the food)”.I didn’t ask the same to her. Her food was simple only. I could not pass even a single day without seeing her. My day started with her “sairam” and ended with her” sairam”. What kind of relation is that? I was not matured enough to realize that.(if you have time please go to the first para.. other wise continue!!)
The day had come to go part. Union is joyful but parting is painful; isn’t it! My neighbor got transferred to Bombay. (Mumbai now!) And I bid adieu with tears. For some days I used to stare at the vacant house. I felt as if my Minu is telling “Sairam”, my lips used to murmur at the unmanned place. Days rolled by. My neighbor visited my village after 6 months. I hesitantly asked “how is Minu?”. Silence was his answer and eyelids became wet. My heart skipped a beat, “have I asked anything wrong?”. No.. She is no more. After landing in Bombay one day, she took what she should not have been eaten. That’s it. Now it’s my turn to wet my eyelids. I left that place. Two days I cried silently. What may be the reason? The separation (?!) or climate, food what ever it may be. I stopped going to the temple for some time. (ttchhh.. I became too much emotional!!) Keeping Minu’s story apart we will come to our story.
If the Paul is for western countries, Killi(the parrot) from killinochi for eastern countries. She predicted the victory of Netherlands in the final. After hearing the story of Paul, she might have wished to have a date with Paul. (The unfulfilled dream!!).Meanwhile talks are going on to arrange a world wide tour of Paul.(His days are numbered. Only six months left for his departure from earth!!).As usual I put my “tentacles” (what a comparison!) to roll over Paul’s India visit.
Ofcourse some political questions are in my mind like,
v Will Manmohanji contain the price rise
1. Within this year 2. never
v Rahul will become PM in the year
1. 2011 2.2016
v Kashmir problem will be solved
1. within 5 years 2. Within 10 years
One more question is there, if I ask Paul will be fainted, so I have decided to skip that question!!!
Coming to our BM, I have the questions regarding bm.(just 4 J)
v Venkat na will post his Jasmine blog (in any Monday!!)
1. 2010 2.2011
v Durgesh’s next blog will be about
1. Spiritual 2. spice girls
v How many (useful!!) blogs vishy will post in a day (as a record?)
1.10 2. 20
v Arunji’s next blog will be about
1. Alphabet games 2. Tips to become active member
v Batches in mates will become ‘batchmates’ in
1. 2010 2.2011
Finally…
v BM will get a facelift and overtake fb in
1. near future 2. Never!!!
I am sure if I ask all these questions, Paul has to spend his life in India itself!!(What an idea!!)
Ok.. “Pals” have you any question for Mr. Paul? (so that I will forward to him and get an answer!!)
Love is a strange thing. It may happen with anybody. Between living and nonliving thing, living things, the way of expressing love may differ.
If a question is put forward to everybody that who has become the “famous” personality of the year? I am sure out of 10 people at least 6 would choose to answer “Paul” (the psychic octopus). Though German people initially loved him, started hating him later (and some body is ready for the kill too!). Expecting something from somebody and if we could not get that from, love becomes hate. Then what kind of love is that?. ”He” may not be aware of his popularity, but should be enjoying the stardom. Though using animals or birds in the prediction may not be new thing, the extraordinary popularity might have developed some kind of jealously or curious love in the minds of other “seniors” in this field.
In this context my mind went back by 30 years (oops. . . I have revealed by age!!).The day I met her, got flashed before me. “She” is Minu. She had pretty looks, charming nose and more than that intelligent brain too. (That’s the surprising element of all!). Who ever sees her, definitely will fall in “love” with her. Whether it may be for her welcome “Vango” (please come!), or asking your welfare”sowkiyama?”(Are you fine?!).She is my neighbor’s life and soul. After my school time is over, I used to rush to my neighbors house to see Minu. In the first meeting of the day she used to say” Sairam..” (my neighbour was a sai devotee)and force us to repeat the same. After that she used to ask affectionately “saptacha..(Have u taken the food)”.I didn’t ask the same to her. Her food was simple only. I could not pass even a single day without seeing her. My day started with her “sairam” and ended with her” sairam”. What kind of relation is that? I was not matured enough to realize that.(if you have time please go to the first para.. other wise continue!!)
The day had come to go part. Union is joyful but parting is painful; isn’t it! My neighbor got transferred to Bombay. (Mumbai now!) And I bid adieu with tears. For some days I used to stare at the vacant house. I felt as if my Minu is telling “Sairam”, my lips used to murmur at the unmanned place. Days rolled by. My neighbor visited my village after 6 months. I hesitantly asked “how is Minu?”. Silence was his answer and eyelids became wet. My heart skipped a beat, “have I asked anything wrong?”. No.. She is no more. After landing in Bombay one day, she took what she should not have been eaten. That’s it. Now it’s my turn to wet my eyelids. I left that place. Two days I cried silently. What may be the reason? The separation (?!) or climate, food what ever it may be. I stopped going to the temple for some time. (ttchhh.. I became too much emotional!!) Keeping Minu’s story apart we will come to our story.
If the Paul is for western countries, Killi(the parrot) from killinochi for eastern countries. She predicted the victory of Netherlands in the final. After hearing the story of Paul, she might have wished to have a date with Paul. (The unfulfilled dream!!).Meanwhile talks are going on to arrange a world wide tour of Paul.(His days are numbered. Only six months left for his departure from earth!!).As usual I put my “tentacles” (what a comparison!) to roll over Paul’s India visit.
Ofcourse some political questions are in my mind like,
v Will Manmohanji contain the price rise
1. Within this year 2. never
v Rahul will become PM in the year
1. 2011 2.2016
v Kashmir problem will be solved
1. within 5 years 2. Within 10 years
One more question is there, if I ask Paul will be fainted, so I have decided to skip that question!!!
Coming to our BM, I have the questions regarding bm.(just 4 J)
v Venkat na will post his Jasmine blog (in any Monday!!)
1. 2010 2.2011
v Durgesh’s next blog will be about
1. Spiritual 2. spice girls
v How many (useful!!) blogs vishy will post in a day (as a record?)
1.10 2. 20
v Arunji’s next blog will be about
1. Alphabet games 2. Tips to become active member
v Batches in mates will become ‘batchmates’ in
1. 2010 2.2011
Finally…
v BM will get a facelift and overtake fb in
1. near future 2. Never!!!
I am sure if I ask all these questions, Paul has to spend his life in India itself!!(What an idea!!)
Ok.. “Pals” have you any question for Mr. Paul? (so that I will forward to him and get an answer!!)
Janam samja karo:way to win sweet hearts
Though we cheer up the life before marriage, the things aftermath is quite phenomenal. (This is my view; even if you don’t agree with me!).As one author has put it; I agree there is no pain in bachelor life; there is no pleasure too! Life gets a meaning after marriage only. In the society, we get a unique identity, respect and status. The success of married life not spending years together; but the level of understanding between the two. (In short it depends on quality of relationship not the quantity!).Keeping jokes apart (like better half becomes bitter half in a short time!!) marriage is quite indispensable to do with. Like exams which are necessary evils, marriage to life. I agree. Life is a tough teacher. The teacher teaches the lessons first and conducts the test. But the life conducts the test first and teaches the lesson later. If we note down the incidents in a diary, later it will become a useful guide(?!) for the youngsters. I have noted down some incidents in my diary. I am making the pages an open secret. Please go through that and don’t forget to put your autograph (what else? Valuable comments in the last!)in the end. Some of the scenarios might have happened in your life also..
Date: 10.01.10 .time 11:00 am
Ø We went for shopping. (If we go for shopping, nowadays we have to see the calendar not the watch!!)my wife has selected something. Obviously asking my permission (rather it’s a formality!) and idea to choose between blue and olive green. By using my experience “darling this blue suits you! That’s all. Her face turned red and that was the end of finest hour the day! I started blinking(as usual). What I should have told? Is there anything wrong?
Date:05.02.10 .time:.03.00pm
Ø Today she went for shopping alone. I preferred to stay at home. (Good decision!)After a half day, she returned, with a limp. As usual I could spot the difference after some time only! With anger she asked ‘could you spot any difference?’ I replied innocently, “you were looking tired darling. Prepare & have some coffee (give me too!). That’s all. Cloudburst happened. I m limping, still you could not find the difference? I have fallen in the shop. I am suffering from unbearable pain. You are joking. What a man…u r…etc..Once again I used my experience. ‘I think you are wearing a high heels sandal. You should not have worn. I told you the same thing two days back. But you haven’t changed.. That’s why this happened…. On that day, that was the end of finest hour. I was again thinking. What should I have told? Any mistake was there?
03.03.10 08.15 pm
Ø Things were going on fine, till that time. She was watching some TV soap opera. I was reading some magazine. Suddenly I heard a sound that some body is crying. Wife turned towards me and told,’ see that!’ I took the eyes from the book and saw my wife was shedding the tears. Suddenly mars started its work. Hey. Stop this non sense...Whats this yaar… that’s it. Her anger turned towards me. You don’t have human heart? Once again I got confused!
What may be the reasons behind these incidents? I was also breaking my head! Finally I could get a reply from one good book, ‘why men can’t listen and women can’t read maps’ by Allan Pease.
ü If a woman is asking you, what should she choose means, she has already decided one thing in mind. (She is asking you just for formality!!)The intelligent reply should have been “what you have decided?” That’s all. (Give the opponent a chance to have a fair play in the game!) Everybody should have the moral feeling that, her participation is also important in every happening. That’s the hidden truth. Without realizing the real reason, shouting at her wont help to improve the things.
ü Without realizing her pain, you should not have started your advice session. First listen to her. That’s what she is expecting from you. In the art of loving, the listening plays an important role. Please go through the following lines:
“Please listen to your wife. If she says turn right, why do you turn left?”
“If you start listening to your wife, 90% of problems will be solved”
Those lines were not ordinary ones. But part of sacred document. Yes. They were part of judgement given by Supreme Court judges’ division bench comprising of Justice Markandeya Katju and justice verma in a family case.
In AOL,(art of living) , AOL (art of listening) plays an important role. So what for you are waiting? Start listening to others.
ü In the third case you see her emotions. A woman is full of emotional feelings. When ever she is flickering the channels, a woman used to see the relations and emotions. For that only she has been created. That’s her strength. More over because of her feelings only, still the institution called family is existing even today. When she starts ignoring her qualities that would be the end of the world. So accept her with all her qualities. Don’t try to change it.(nobody can do it also!!)
Man or woman acts according to the purpose he/she was meant for. Don’t construe other one as enemy or imperfect. AFAP see other person with respect to situation not as a personality. We have not come to the world to rectify others faults; and we are not meant for that also. Rather living a life as an intelligent or smart person, live like a human being. That’s the easiest way win another one’s heart. For woman,
Ø The easiest way to enter your loved ones heart is try to understand him.
The major complaint is he is not listening. If you are going to tell a serious matter, inform him earlier.”Hey... I am going to discuss a serious matter with you. Listen to me. “That’s enough. When he is reading a magazine, or watching TV don’t tell serious things. Yes.. He can’t do two things at a time (?!). That’s his power of concentration. If he concentrates on two things, as per him, he can’t do justice. Of course it’s not his problem. Biologically he has been designed for that.
Ø Another major complaint is that, he is not remembering important things. “I have to repeat so many times. Still he doesn’t remember the earlier experiences. That’s not his fault. It has come from his ancestors, for whom hunting was the prime profession. If he remembers earlier dangers how will he proceed daily? That will make his livelihood impossible one. So some purpose is there to forget earlier ones and start afresh. But a woman has to remember earlier dangers to protect her siblings. She has been created for that purpose. Her job is to remind.
To put a full stop to my thoughts, I switched on tv. Asha bonsle was singing a song..
“Janam samja kharo..
Pardein mein rehne do..
Pardey math uthavo”
Yes.. Everybody has born with a purpose. If we have understood the purpose, that’s fine. If we couldn’t understand the others one, until then we should remain patient.
So each one has a purpose to live and if we have found that, the life would be an enjoyable journey in the planet called earth! Are you listening to me?
Though we cheer up the life before marriage, the things aftermath is quite phenomenal. (This is my view; even if you don’t agree with me!).As one author has put it; I agree there is no pain in bachelor life; there is no pleasure too! Life gets a meaning after marriage only. In the society, we get a unique identity, respect and status. The success of married life not spending years together; but the level of understanding between the two. (In short it depends on quality of relationship not the quantity!).Keeping jokes apart (like better half becomes bitter half in a short time!!) marriage is quite indispensable to do with. Like exams which are necessary evils, marriage to life. I agree. Life is a tough teacher. The teacher teaches the lessons first and conducts the test. But the life conducts the test first and teaches the lesson later. If we note down the incidents in a diary, later it will become a useful guide(?!) for the youngsters. I have noted down some incidents in my diary. I am making the pages an open secret. Please go through that and don’t forget to put your autograph (what else? Valuable comments in the last!)in the end. Some of the scenarios might have happened in your life also..
Date: 10.01.10 .time 11:00 am
Ø We went for shopping. (If we go for shopping, nowadays we have to see the calendar not the watch!!)my wife has selected something. Obviously asking my permission (rather it’s a formality!) and idea to choose between blue and olive green. By using my experience “darling this blue suits you! That’s all. Her face turned red and that was the end of finest hour the day! I started blinking(as usual). What I should have told? Is there anything wrong?
Date:05.02.10 .time:.03.00pm
Ø Today she went for shopping alone. I preferred to stay at home. (Good decision!)After a half day, she returned, with a limp. As usual I could spot the difference after some time only! With anger she asked ‘could you spot any difference?’ I replied innocently, “you were looking tired darling. Prepare & have some coffee (give me too!). That’s all. Cloudburst happened. I m limping, still you could not find the difference? I have fallen in the shop. I am suffering from unbearable pain. You are joking. What a man…u r…etc..Once again I used my experience. ‘I think you are wearing a high heels sandal. You should not have worn. I told you the same thing two days back. But you haven’t changed.. That’s why this happened…. On that day, that was the end of finest hour. I was again thinking. What should I have told? Any mistake was there?
03.03.10 08.15 pm
Ø Things were going on fine, till that time. She was watching some TV soap opera. I was reading some magazine. Suddenly I heard a sound that some body is crying. Wife turned towards me and told,’ see that!’ I took the eyes from the book and saw my wife was shedding the tears. Suddenly mars started its work. Hey. Stop this non sense...Whats this yaar… that’s it. Her anger turned towards me. You don’t have human heart? Once again I got confused!
What may be the reasons behind these incidents? I was also breaking my head! Finally I could get a reply from one good book, ‘why men can’t listen and women can’t read maps’ by Allan Pease.
ü If a woman is asking you, what should she choose means, she has already decided one thing in mind. (She is asking you just for formality!!)The intelligent reply should have been “what you have decided?” That’s all. (Give the opponent a chance to have a fair play in the game!) Everybody should have the moral feeling that, her participation is also important in every happening. That’s the hidden truth. Without realizing the real reason, shouting at her wont help to improve the things.
ü Without realizing her pain, you should not have started your advice session. First listen to her. That’s what she is expecting from you. In the art of loving, the listening plays an important role. Please go through the following lines:
“Please listen to your wife. If she says turn right, why do you turn left?”
“If you start listening to your wife, 90% of problems will be solved”
Those lines were not ordinary ones. But part of sacred document. Yes. They were part of judgement given by Supreme Court judges’ division bench comprising of Justice Markandeya Katju and justice verma in a family case.
In AOL,(art of living) , AOL (art of listening) plays an important role. So what for you are waiting? Start listening to others.
ü In the third case you see her emotions. A woman is full of emotional feelings. When ever she is flickering the channels, a woman used to see the relations and emotions. For that only she has been created. That’s her strength. More over because of her feelings only, still the institution called family is existing even today. When she starts ignoring her qualities that would be the end of the world. So accept her with all her qualities. Don’t try to change it.(nobody can do it also!!)
Man or woman acts according to the purpose he/she was meant for. Don’t construe other one as enemy or imperfect. AFAP see other person with respect to situation not as a personality. We have not come to the world to rectify others faults; and we are not meant for that also. Rather living a life as an intelligent or smart person, live like a human being. That’s the easiest way win another one’s heart. For woman,
Ø The easiest way to enter your loved ones heart is try to understand him.
The major complaint is he is not listening. If you are going to tell a serious matter, inform him earlier.”Hey... I am going to discuss a serious matter with you. Listen to me. “That’s enough. When he is reading a magazine, or watching TV don’t tell serious things. Yes.. He can’t do two things at a time (?!). That’s his power of concentration. If he concentrates on two things, as per him, he can’t do justice. Of course it’s not his problem. Biologically he has been designed for that.
Ø Another major complaint is that, he is not remembering important things. “I have to repeat so many times. Still he doesn’t remember the earlier experiences. That’s not his fault. It has come from his ancestors, for whom hunting was the prime profession. If he remembers earlier dangers how will he proceed daily? That will make his livelihood impossible one. So some purpose is there to forget earlier ones and start afresh. But a woman has to remember earlier dangers to protect her siblings. She has been created for that purpose. Her job is to remind.
To put a full stop to my thoughts, I switched on tv. Asha bonsle was singing a song..
“Janam samja kharo..
Pardein mein rehne do..
Pardey math uthavo”
Yes.. Everybody has born with a purpose. If we have understood the purpose, that’s fine. If we couldn’t understand the others one, until then we should remain patient.
So each one has a purpose to live and if we have found that, the life would be an enjoyable journey in the planet called earth! Are you listening to me?
open up your hearts
Open up your hearts:dil khol ke
It happened in the early morning of winter, last year. I didn’t remember the date on which that happened. But that incident is still fresh in my mind. As usual I was ready on my place. I got a message from nearby airport about the arrival of that flight. That one happened without any prior information. That’s unusual; I thought. The weather was foggy and cold. But there won’t be any problem to land. I tried to find the reason for that movement. I got only information that, it’s on a mission. I felt it may be on a medical mission. Normally medical emergency flights used to operate like this. They used to carry passengers, who need urgent medical care. This may be like that. After that, I concentrated on my job.
From the first transmission onwards, the pilot showed some urgency. Like “are we no.1 to land?””any delay expected?””what about weather””request priority to land”. After all these, I have decided to make that aircraft no.1 and delaying other ones. The aircraft landed without any delay. Some ambulance rushed to the aircraft and doctors who came on that aircraft were whisked away in that.
Next the pilot put another unusual request, to allow them to keep the engine on. That’s strange. With hesitation I approved it. Though it may endanger others also. It was a calculated risk but sensing some urgency I took that decision. As I was busy on other aircraft, I could not concentrate further on that matter. Time flown away. After one hour or so, the aircraft was ready for departure. Once again he put forward another unusual request; “please intimate the destination airport not to delay the landing”. This time I was taken aback. How can we say that one to another airport? Won’t he think that, I am poking my nose into his business? The stress on the word Please, made me to do that also. He got airborne with the shortest time, after the arrival of the passengers. But no patient boarded that aircraft instead some big “box” was loaded into the aircraft with care. I didn’t want to disturb the pilot, but came to know from other sources. The question rose in my mind. What was in that “box?”. I could not find the answer for that question. But came to know about that in the next day newspaper only.
You would be surprised to know what was in that box. Before that I wish to inform about the accident, happened in my town. One small boy called “dinesh” met with an accident. In which unfortunately the doctors could not save his life. After an intensive treatment, he was declared “brain dead”. Yes.. other parts were “live”. With some hesitation, the doctors informed his sobbing parents, that if they wish, its possible to see his son in next avatar,by the way saving some lives. Making their heart tough, they agreed for that. Now you could have got the answer, yes.. that boys vital parts like heart,kidney,eyes were in that box!!! But they have to perform the operation on the donor within 1 hour. Otherwise the exercise would go futile. The operations were carried out in Chennai and 9 people were given new lives with those parts!!
(From Chennai airport to that hospital, the traffic was held for 1 hour and Police commissioner played a stellar role in this. Police should also be appreciated in this context!!)
What a great deed! We have to appreciate the parents for taking that important decision, because of which 9 lives were saved!!
If you think that great deed is over, another part is yet to come. That happened recently in salem. Now over to salem(in Tamilnadu!)
20.08.2010 .. 08:00 am
Jagadish’s mother,devaki was totally excited. Her house was decorated & ready to welcome new guest. She was giving instructions to her servant maid “hey.. don’t put more oil.. my son’s” heart” will be affected.. Don’t put much masala. .. my son’s “heart” wont like that…prepare that sweet my son’s heart will like that..
She called neighbors also for that feast. All were in an excited state.
10.00 am
Somebody gave voice that”they have come”… after hearing a car horn, she rushed to the gate. And she welcomed the guests. The main guest was one girl named abinaya… devaki welcomed her with emotions, tear filled eyes. After seeing her, abinaya also shed tears. Devaki took abinaya inside their house. In the hall, Jagadish’s photo was decorated with garlands. Abinaya performed namaskar to that great soul. Now you could have understood, what has happened. Yes. jagadish’s heart is beating inside abinaya. He is new avatar. All eyes present in that occasion became wet. Devaki kissed abinaya in the forehead and hugged her. She can feel the warmth ness of son’s heart in that. Only she can; isn’t she?
The above incidents are examples of great deeds. They happened under extraordinary circumstances. I think they should not happen with anybody. When you are reading this article, the world is celebrating the “Joy of giving week”! In this context LIC‘s advertisement comes to my mind.
“jeevan ke saath be;jeevan ke badh be;”
Can we do any thing, so that the world can remember us even in our absence? Yes. That’s eye donation. We can donate our eyes after death. With that we can see the world even after death through somebody’s eyes. The thinking itself is exciting. Isn’t it? (My self and my wife have registered in the nearby N.G.O. for the donation of eyes.) So in this week give anything to your dear and near ones and experience the joy of giving. Give it with open heart; dil se deejiye. Kushi se jeeyiye. We have to prove that, Humanity still lives; it hasn’t died. Do you agree with me?
It happened in the early morning of winter, last year. I didn’t remember the date on which that happened. But that incident is still fresh in my mind. As usual I was ready on my place. I got a message from nearby airport about the arrival of that flight. That one happened without any prior information. That’s unusual; I thought. The weather was foggy and cold. But there won’t be any problem to land. I tried to find the reason for that movement. I got only information that, it’s on a mission. I felt it may be on a medical mission. Normally medical emergency flights used to operate like this. They used to carry passengers, who need urgent medical care. This may be like that. After that, I concentrated on my job.
From the first transmission onwards, the pilot showed some urgency. Like “are we no.1 to land?””any delay expected?””what about weather””request priority to land”. After all these, I have decided to make that aircraft no.1 and delaying other ones. The aircraft landed without any delay. Some ambulance rushed to the aircraft and doctors who came on that aircraft were whisked away in that.
Next the pilot put another unusual request, to allow them to keep the engine on. That’s strange. With hesitation I approved it. Though it may endanger others also. It was a calculated risk but sensing some urgency I took that decision. As I was busy on other aircraft, I could not concentrate further on that matter. Time flown away. After one hour or so, the aircraft was ready for departure. Once again he put forward another unusual request; “please intimate the destination airport not to delay the landing”. This time I was taken aback. How can we say that one to another airport? Won’t he think that, I am poking my nose into his business? The stress on the word Please, made me to do that also. He got airborne with the shortest time, after the arrival of the passengers. But no patient boarded that aircraft instead some big “box” was loaded into the aircraft with care. I didn’t want to disturb the pilot, but came to know from other sources. The question rose in my mind. What was in that “box?”. I could not find the answer for that question. But came to know about that in the next day newspaper only.
You would be surprised to know what was in that box. Before that I wish to inform about the accident, happened in my town. One small boy called “dinesh” met with an accident. In which unfortunately the doctors could not save his life. After an intensive treatment, he was declared “brain dead”. Yes.. other parts were “live”. With some hesitation, the doctors informed his sobbing parents, that if they wish, its possible to see his son in next avatar,by the way saving some lives. Making their heart tough, they agreed for that. Now you could have got the answer, yes.. that boys vital parts like heart,kidney,eyes were in that box!!! But they have to perform the operation on the donor within 1 hour. Otherwise the exercise would go futile. The operations were carried out in Chennai and 9 people were given new lives with those parts!!
(From Chennai airport to that hospital, the traffic was held for 1 hour and Police commissioner played a stellar role in this. Police should also be appreciated in this context!!)
What a great deed! We have to appreciate the parents for taking that important decision, because of which 9 lives were saved!!
If you think that great deed is over, another part is yet to come. That happened recently in salem. Now over to salem(in Tamilnadu!)
20.08.2010 .. 08:00 am
Jagadish’s mother,devaki was totally excited. Her house was decorated & ready to welcome new guest. She was giving instructions to her servant maid “hey.. don’t put more oil.. my son’s” heart” will be affected.. Don’t put much masala. .. my son’s “heart” wont like that…prepare that sweet my son’s heart will like that..
She called neighbors also for that feast. All were in an excited state.
10.00 am
Somebody gave voice that”they have come”… after hearing a car horn, she rushed to the gate. And she welcomed the guests. The main guest was one girl named abinaya… devaki welcomed her with emotions, tear filled eyes. After seeing her, abinaya also shed tears. Devaki took abinaya inside their house. In the hall, Jagadish’s photo was decorated with garlands. Abinaya performed namaskar to that great soul. Now you could have understood, what has happened. Yes. jagadish’s heart is beating inside abinaya. He is new avatar. All eyes present in that occasion became wet. Devaki kissed abinaya in the forehead and hugged her. She can feel the warmth ness of son’s heart in that. Only she can; isn’t she?
The above incidents are examples of great deeds. They happened under extraordinary circumstances. I think they should not happen with anybody. When you are reading this article, the world is celebrating the “Joy of giving week”! In this context LIC‘s advertisement comes to my mind.
“jeevan ke saath be;jeevan ke badh be;”
Can we do any thing, so that the world can remember us even in our absence? Yes. That’s eye donation. We can donate our eyes after death. With that we can see the world even after death through somebody’s eyes. The thinking itself is exciting. Isn’t it? (My self and my wife have registered in the nearby N.G.O. for the donation of eyes.) So in this week give anything to your dear and near ones and experience the joy of giving. Give it with open heart; dil se deejiye. Kushi se jeeyiye. We have to prove that, Humanity still lives; it hasn’t died. Do you agree with me?
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